A reader left a comment on What am I Doing with My Life? Follow Up with a great suggestion. Here is part of Bob’s comment:
Have you thought of doing a values clarification exercise as part of this process? It starts with listing all your values, then ranking them in importance to you. Then, when an option or event involves two or more of your values in conflict, you will have a new level of clarity of which value to uphold and a new level of objectivity about why you are violating one of your lesser values. This is a great way to reduce the stress and “drag” associated with highly complex circumstances.
This is a really great idea. I’ve done a Primary Life Goals post, but I haven’t explicitly written about my values here.
I followed the procedure Bob describes above, but to list all my values I used the exercise described in Steve Pavlina’s How to discover your life purpose. I modified it slightly so that instead of focusing on life purpose, I’m focusing on personal values.
After getting my list of values, I grouped them into similar categories:
List of Values
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integrity dignity conscientious introspection respect frugality conservation discipline |
community connections friendship comraderie selflessness |
innovation creativity newness clarity intelligence passion ideas learning |
openness growth facing fears enlightenment testing habits peace
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adventure fitness health flexibility |
fun happiness |
I decided to go with a top seven values, ranked in importance. I figure seven because there are lots of fun ways you can refer to seven, such as “The Magnificent Seven” or “Values List Seven”. Also, since I have six groups, having seven top values lets me pick the most important from each group and have one extra slot. I think usually people say to go with five though.
So choosing seven and then ranking them in a simple pareto analysis, I come up with the following ordered list of values:
- Integrity.
- Creativity.
- Connections.
- Adventure.
- Personal Growth.
- Service.
- Conservation.
This was an extremely difficult process. Typically things just jump out at you when using these techniques, but each of my values resonated so strongly that I had a hard enough time choosing them. Ranking them was nearly impossible!
In the end I ended up ranking them backwards. By choosing the seventh slot first, I was able to come up with a ranking system that I was satisfied with.
I’m still not convinced of it though. If I faced a situation in which I had to choose between working at a very automated job for the rest of my life or acting with integrity, I don’t know that I would choose the option with integrity.
Values are a very fluid thing, but Bob is absolutely write in suggesting that I need to have a defined values list before I go about trying to figure out what I’m going to do with my life.
If I wanted to be more sure of the order of the list, I’d do a sort of paired comparison of each value.
Has anyone else done work like this to determine their values? I know that The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
has a method like this for determining your personal values. I’d be really interested to hear what values lists my readers have come up with, and what process they used to develop them.
-zot
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